What to do when they want to get back together, but they are still seeing someone
Is your ex seeing someone else? If yes, do you still want to get back together? Well, I can promise you that it’s going to be harder than you imagined. I mean, how will you get your ex back successful when they’ve already formed a bond with someone else? And the fact that your ex moved on will it affect your ‘to-be’ relationship in any way?
When it comes to matters of the heart, it’s hard to understand what we need. And in this case, your heart wants what it wants, and there’s no going back on that. Don’t feel guilty about anything because that will affect your future relationship with your ex.
But with your current situation, you need to take time and think about the consequences of your action. Don’t just go chasing your ex-no siree! Take your time to analyze what’s happening and what you need to do to win them back.
There’s a chance of success when it comes to getting your ex back. And it’s also normal for you to continuously play out how you are planning to win over your ex in your head. But don’t worry! You still have a fighting chance. So, with that in mind, here are some of the ways you can use to win back your ex.
As much as your ex is dating someone else, I want you to practice a routine that I found effective. It’s called ‘Being There Method.’
Here, you don’t have to be proactive in the relationship of your ex with their new partner. All you have to do is be present in the background. If you are present in your ex’s life, it will make it even harder for them to move on. That will constantly remind your ex of how great you were to his life. More importantly, it will help prevent them from fully committing to a new relationship with the partner.
What’s more, if you are constantly there for your ex, the new partner will go crazy with insecurity and jealousy since you are in constant communication. The next thing is adding some gestures and acts of kindness towards your ex will also help you get them back. This could be anything like sharing old jokes or reminiscing on special moments.
You can hang out whenever necessary or even go for trips to the coffee shop or just your local grocery store. Something that will not make his current girlfriend suspicious of what you are doing. Additionally, you can comment on their social media status or other pictures. But don’t get too carried away.
Take away her shine
One of the main reasons why your ex found a new partner is because she looks shiny and brand new to them. But there’s a chance that both of you have the same pros and cons. However, the fact that they are unchartered territory for them, it makes them feel compelled to know her more. So, the best way to handle such a situation is to steal her shine. How do you do that?
It’s simple actually; you already have a history with your ex, so you know what they like in a woman.
And on top of that, you can show them that you are a changed person. I want you to present yourself as a brand-new lady. This will completely blow their mind. By doing so, you will be offering more value than the new girlfriend. And by doing so, your ex will likely get confused on who to pick. And in case the new girlfriend does anything wrong, your ex will come back running to you.
Well, this is a bit tricky for most people to understand. But let me try to make it simple and straight to the point. When your ex finds a new girlfriend, I want you to start going out with new dates. That’s for two main reasons:
- Show them what they are missing out on
- Also, you can show them that you’ve not put your life on hold
When you finally start to go out and mingle with other people, your ex will feel jealous. Additionally, going out on dates shows your ex that they need to make a move, or they will lose you forever. On top of that, your ex will feel like they are missing out on the new and improved version of you.
It’s just like going to your local store and finding out that there’s a flash sale on an item that you would otherwise never buy. That will compel you to buy the item, especially if you have the money at that moment.
By going out on dates, you are showing your ex that you will only be available for a limited amount of time. And they need to step up before you are no longer available.
Here comes the secret tip
The other main reason why I need you to go out on dates is that this could be your plan B. I mean, let’s face it! It’s not a guarantee that your ex will come back to you. Although the chances of your ex’s new relationship ending up in marriage are slim, it’s still possible. Like I said earlier, love tends to be a bit complicated at some point. And you need to keep your options open.
Honestly, if your partner is in a relationship, it’s going to a long time before they are single again. That means you might be single for a while. So, if your ex is in a new relationship, it’s totally fine to want to keep your door open. But in case the two break up, then you can use that opportunity to rekindle the old flames.
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